think thrice....

dis blog has been inspired by a DON to whom i was telling to think thrice on every aspect of life......

DON started the conversation and asked me how shud we maintain balance in life??? i answered, if u r a joker in a circus, den u can always take a long rod in ur hand n do practice walkin on the rope three hours a day... but if u r a normal human being, den i guess dere is a completely different way out to deal with most of the things....
i think that there are 3 aspects to every thing so every1 shud think thrice to anything dey face... these 3 aspects r - physical aspect, mental aspect and emotional aspect...
those who think physically r the ones who survive only till dey have strong bones.. after dat dey r as good as infants... those who think emotionally r the ones who survive only till oders do good to dem.... after dat dey r like indian govt which can stumble any moment... but those who think mentally n logically r the ones who survives the most.... although in dis illogical world, everythin cant be seen in a logical way but still, those who are mentally strong r the ones who succeed in life..

its all in the mind.. its all about playing mind games... its all about taking life from an intelligent angle....

and to balance one's life, its always best to maximize the mental aspect rather than other two apsects... the more we optimize it, the more balanced we will remain in life.. n dose who think by their heart are the ones who r biased towards self interst... instead of taking an unbiased decision dey tend to hide deir self interest by giving it a common statement - "mere dil ne yeh kaha hai".... while reality remains dat dey act too intelligently by putting deir self interst on top n converting their mental aspect into an emotional aspect...
so in life its better not to be on the extremes of physicality or emotionally but rather be dere mentally......

keep on thinking in every situation with 3 different apsects, but act only to balance ur action........

25 is the call for me...

well as i have been tagged by the C.R.(Neha sengupta) of my class who also happens to be my fren, so i had to write dis one... oderwise she wud virtually kill me for not doin dis activity as she loves all d weired things except studies.... vaise bhi kaafi tym ho gaya tag kiye huey, so its high time now... ;););)

well i need to tell 25 things or rather facts about myself.. so widout wasting much lets start wid dem...

1.) I always feared touching a Computer and even failed in computr exams in 7th class in my school.. dat tym i decided dat i wud never have any computer n neither wantewd to even touch one... but kismat dekho, kahan ussmein masters tak kheench ke laayi hai.. but d irony is, still dose feelings exists in my heart.... ;)

2.) i was very golu molu in bachpan n every one used to pull my cheeks as dey were really chubby.. but due to serious jaundice, i lost all my weight...

3.) i was ranked as best student both in school life and college life...

4.) i have done voice-over for few skits professionally.. i lended my voice for different characters and had done recording in proper studios..

5.) i was once into the modelling line n was runner up in a modelling contest at national level.. i even did a ramp show at karol bagh shopping festival.. but due to some personal problems i left the modelling feild n joined computer science honours..

6.) i was a medical aspirant in 11th n 12th class n even dropped an year after skool to fulfill my dreams but juz cudnt succeed n i consider reservation as a major hinderance in my failure..

7.) i generally think from my brain n not from my heart n dats y ppl do consider me stone hearted....

8.) my 1st gf was at the age of 5 who used to stay next to my house.. once we even ran out of our houses widout telling our parents... finally we were caught in a gurudwara eating langar wid sum sikh kids... uske baad bot zyada maara tha mummy ne.. ;)

9.) whenevr i used to travel by train, i used to join my hands after every whistle.. cuz i used to consider it as temple bell n my mother taught me to join hands whenever any temple is nearby....

10.) i have done a certificate course in numerology...

11.) once all my cousins gave name to the imaginary gf n bf to all of us who were sitting dere... we were in total 7 bros n 4 sisters sitting out dere to give names.. n d name given to my imaginary gf was RUBY.. i was only 12 at dat tym....

12.) i once ate a lizard's egg thinking it as a bubble gum.. but thankfully it wasnt poisonous n i hadnt swallowed the lizard inside dat egg...

13.) my idol was one of my father's brother who is not in dis world anymore... he was a doctor by profession but the no of roles he played in his lifetime was sumthing which no1 can ever do...

14.) i have a collection of key-rings and self composed poems..

15.) i always feared Social studies in my school life n even failed in 9th class due to it.. although was given grace due to good performance in other subjects n oder feilds... den one of my teachers mr ajay gupta taught me sst in 10th n i was among the toppers of my skool... he is really a gem of a person...

16.) i travelled with whole of Indian and Sri lankan cricket team in indian airlines while coming from nagpur to delhi.. i even took interview of marvan attapattu at the airport..

17.) when i was 5-6 yr old, i threw my cousin's calculator in the dustbin juz for fun.. but i was generous enuff to tell him dat i have done dat thing.... ;)

18.) i used to fear from security gaurds at my aunt's colony thinking dem to be real police..

19.) i once had a half blind date...

20.) i was once lost during a day picnic to science museum wid skool grup n i was heavily fined for dat.. but ni reality i was roaming wid sum1 else of some other skool... ;)

21.) i used to purchase stalls during diwali mela's n used to put up different kind of games over dere wid my cuzin... since he is no more in dis world, so i dont visit mela's nowadays(not to play the games atleast)...

22.) i once got an award for the best entry in delhi 4 my creativity in collage work. i was being honoured by british high commissionar Sir Rob Young at India Habitat Centre...

23.)i once attended a fashion show at a 5 star hotel at chanakya puri which was meant to be for adults only... but me n my fren managed to get in thru a mast jugaad... n moreover we juz managed to escape from there as by mistake we were found near green room of models... so if we wud have been caught dere, we wud surely have been into trouble............

24.) My political idol has been Atal Behari Vajpayee and i met him once on his bday at his home wid special permission when he was the PM of the country... dere were oder political leaders also present dere at dat time.....

25.) i was the topper in a course at British council and gave a speech at the same podium where greats like Tony Blair delivered his speech in the audi of British council....


after this i would like to tag one of my school fren who is getting ready to enter the fashion industry now - http://swatimatta.blogspot.com

bolo to "problem".. naa bolo to "problem"...

sumtyms we face such situations in lyf, for which we actually dont have anything to say.. all of u must have heard dis phrase " chit bhi meri, pat bhi meri " i.e. i want both sides of coin whenever u flip it... dats the case goin on wid me dese days, where i m the person not getting any side of the coin... its d opposite one's who are demanding both head n tails n even my coin... i mean dats really dramatic period dat i m goin thru for d past few dayzzz...
we have so many problem n serious issues to think about in lyf - e.g.
1.) recession...
2.) job placement and job security
3.) inflation
4.) politics n elections
5.) indian cricket for both mens n womens
6.) terrorism
7.) pakistan
8.) slumdog millionare(issue here is dat y it won so many oscars)
9.) assignments whether its for home or colg or office
10.) exams(et every stage of lyf)..
11.).
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
n d list continues till d time u think about problems...
now IF, amid so many HUGE problems n serious issue thinking, i try to bring out sum humors,den wats d harm in dat...
i may be a bit sarcastic..
i may be a bit taunting...
i may be a bit cynical...
i may sound a bit mocking sumtyms..
i may sound a bit non-sensical at times..
BUT
i m never rude..
i m never lethargic..
i m never loutish..
i m never merciless..
i m never pernicious..

its juz dat to make the envt more playful or to put sum life in it , i TRY to comment on those part of our lives which we r afraid of facing... which is actually true but we always try to hide from it... i know dat i have no ryt to do such things, but then if anyone cant accept certain things, den i guess, he/she doesnt deserve to be called fit for being a "Sociallite"... i may be getting harder on my views, but i m never afraid of goin back on my words...
if i comment on sumthin, its always meant to be taken in a lighter way... i m not the one taking revenge from sum1 by saying all those things.. its juz dat i m trying to bring out humor so dat one can enjoy on wat he/she has been thinking so seriously for da past few dayzz....
but the type of feedback dat i have been receiving for the past few days has been really disappoiting... every1 has actually started to take my words negatively... dat has been really sad for me... i never tried to hurt any1.. the only thing which has been my prime motto is to make sure dat lyf goes on in an entertaining way..

but sumtyms wen i tries to keep quite, ppl around me again start questioning my silence.. dey get disturbed by my few words... dey think that by not saying anythin to them means dat i m commenting on them in a different way... they think that now its another way to gain importance or get attention of oders...
i mean its again very sad situation for me when doin the ryt thing brings negative results...

i m not able to decipher as in wat to do n wat not do????
for dis, one of my fren suggested to take care of the thots of oders before i speak... but then how wud i kno wats goin on in oder persons mind!!!! n even if sumthin is goin on in oder person's mind, den i guess i m not questiong his views.. i m juz trying to comment on the lighter part of lyf which every1 thinks is obnoxious...


i mean i m really confused as in wats goin on.. i guess every1 has accepted the monotony of situation around dem.. dey r happy to c n feel only d things dat r visible to dem.... n moreover dey r really fyting out wid demselves wen dey find demselves happy...

but yeah, dis dilemma still continues to haunt me day n nyt dese days ki - " bolo to problem, naa bolo to problem".....

happy HoLi doston..(dedicated to my skul n rla frens)..

Gulal ki khushbu,
Gujiya ki mithaas..
Holi ke rang,
Dhol ka saath..
Dil ki khushi,
Aur apno ka pyaar..
Mubaarak ho aapko holi ka tyohaar!!!

I m sure all of u must be flooded with these kind of sms’s in ur cells.. even my cell has got variety of holi msgs ranging from the description of holi colors to the wishes to my family. In trivial parts of India, still the holi starts before the usual date and goes on for around 10 days.
Well we also fall into dis category who are enrolled with universities n r still in the study process. We generally start playing holi 3-4 days before with our class mates and college mates. I played wid my my dett ppl as early as 4 days before the actual day which was really well managed.. But that’s only a kind of consolation for ppl lyk me whose actual HOLI DAY is being spent sitting ideal inside the house. And the major reason behind this being frens and family.. yeah.. family who doesn’t play holi anymore after a series of incidents in our family and frens who have moved to different parts of country to settle in their lives.
Till last year, when most of my frens were studying, there was always a chance to play wid dem, moving around on bikes n cars and celebrating the sense of togetherness. But now most of dem have become professional n now dey don’t have the required tym n resources to play.
Starting off with pesko n prashant. Both of them have joined Infosys in mysore and are working even on HOLI day as their company works on “angrez” policies of only celebrating Christmas n ignoring rest all festivals of our country. I had a talk wid pesko who gave me this hilarious piece of info dat dey got a mail regarding holi – “no damage shud be done to any of d office item or any asset of company else dey will be liable to pay a heavy fine”. The irony of this situation is dat the mail didn’t had any kind of wishes being conveyed to their employees. So one can imagine deir work culture. Anyways, pesko has been one of those who always loved to play holi but always in girlish style.. he wud always be worried about his skin, his hairs, his clothes, wat wud his parents think abt him n his frens and etc etc. but still wud be sporting enuff to play wid us. Once we told him dat we wont be cuming to his house to play n he can comfortably take bath but then we juz dropped in at his place wen he was all ready wid neat n tidy make up of his. He was shocked to see 5 of us – sanjay,me,ankit,prashant,mukul. He just went behind his main entry in fear of getting painted by us as we were carrying those baddie color.. still wid courtesy he came out wid glasses of water for us and wat d hell we did wid him is still unforgettable. We all mixed the green wala color in the glass of water n put it on his head. He suddenly became eco-friendly fren of ours – GREEN pesko, CLEAN pesko.. hehehe…. It was wonderful site but even more wonderful was to see the frustration on pesko’s face cuz of our dirty plan. But still he managed to get a smile n den played wid us wholeheartedly…..
Prashant was the one always boasting around his holi preps wid all kind of dirty colors in his pocket n searching for gals to put on.. but luckily never succeeded as we were always wid him.. “humaare hote huey usske paas koi ladki nahi aati thi….” Hehehehehe….
Sanjay was the man wid heart of playing dirtiest holi among us all… he used to play wid all kind of grease, eggs, dirt, mud, purple, green n wat not… but we were fortunate enuff of not being his target of all dis cuz he usually played dis kind of dirt holi only wid his colony frens.. we all luked dangerous but we were the safest ones to play holi wid… even he is in lucknow dese days pursuing some 6 months short term course in lieu of getting a good placement.. hope he succeeds….
Next comes the VARUN.. the Punjabi munda who was also very elegant in playing holi.. usually he was very sensitive to colors but still he wud never disagree to play wid us n always came out wid me to visit the homes of our frens.. he knew dat fun was never inside rooms on holi,.. it was all out in pink, red, green , yellow n d likes…. He is currently in mumbai sitting in an airconditioned TCS building trying to figure out his future…. So the one who used to accompany me to all d places is missing.. so m trying to find d pink n blues inside my room only dis tym….
Ankit singal has always been busy wid family functions.. mostly he spent tym wid family and was seen very rarely wid us on holi.. but still whenever he got tym, he joined us for sure to play wid colors…
All of us used to visit the house of our female skool frens who lived nearby only.. but none of them ever entertained us as we luked horrible in the blend of all dirty colors… but then we always tried n used to roam around juz to c wats goin on in nearby areas.. the mode of transport was always my grey santro as my parents were never afraid of our car getting colorful.. dey always said dat we’ll get it dry cleaned so we mustn’t worry abt it n juz enjoy our holi session.. dis was really sweet!!!!!
Dis was all about my holi day but there wer few more frens wid whom I played holi in last 3 yrs.. my cheapsters gang… yeah.. sarvesh, kunal, manish,naveen, tauseef, saurabh, shobha, dj, sheelam n many more.. benito jaurez marg wud always be flooded wid lots of dirty colors during hole days n RLA walas were the major reason behind dat.. we the ppl from comp sci hons used to play it really hard at south campus. I remember last yr wen we played wid the colors of bottles being carried by “chuski wala” at satya niketan.. it was really messy.. sarvesh is now working in wipro, kunal in DMRC, manish,naveen n tauseef in TCS Chennai.. sheelam is in banagalore n dj is lost sumwhere in her own world… shobha is the new emcee in the town now so she has to be more looks conscious so as to present herself well at different shows… even our seniors were really cooperative in playing bad holi.. it was by puneet, amit, Nikhil, meetali etc who started dis all in front of us n we carried it till our final year.. I hav heard dat dis yr no1 played holi in rla which was quite disappointing but den dis is how lyf goes on… sum plays n sum don’t…..
So dis year it was overall very lonely holi… most of d frens being sitting in ties n trousers at deir workplace working for a colorful holi in future…. I am missing all of dem n wished to revert back into dose days of playful n colorful celebrations wid dem…..

have we indeed been talibanised???

“if any one violates our culture and traditions, we will not hesitate to protest”.
Does this seems to be an open challenge by those who think themselves as the unattended watchdogs of our society???
Wait a sec.. what was the reply to this statement by people actually present on the responsible positions-“ whatever going on is bad and we are just respecting the Centre-State ties”
Now if central government fails to take concrete actions for the horrendous acts being practised on the basis of invalid beliefs of culture & society and the state govt waits for the supreme power to do something,
Then I guess at the deep corner of our hearts we need to believe, that black clouds of talibanisation are hovering over our heads…

Talibanisation is a situation where in all law n order of a state fails with the emergence of extremists group.
The reason that Indian girls can't drink in pubs - or indeed anywhere else, if what they are presuming to drink is even mildly alcoholic in nature - is that such an activity is so subversive of 'Indian culture' that this entity, which has been around for some millennia ever since the Indus Valley civilisation, will immediately curl up its toes and die at the outrage perpetrated against it. 'Indian culture' - as defined by the SRS(sri ram sena), the RHS(rashtriya hindu sena), the Bajrang Dal, the Shiv Sena and other saffronites - is also ill-equipped to withstand such onslaughts as young people sending each other Valentine cards. Or couples holding hands in parks. Or girls wearing 'un-Indian' clothes, like jeans or skirts.

All these things are inimical to Indian culture and the SRS, or one of its sibling organisations, will beat up anyone who dares to transgress these and similar diktats, as happened in the case of the patrons of the Mangalore pub. Beating up people, particularly women, is apparently not at odds with Indian culture, as espoused by hooligans posing as 'Hindu' activists.
To support these saffronites, the government has been at its best doing - “Nothing”.. their weak policy formation, ineffective ways of implementation, n most importantly, searching ways to increasing their vote banks by finding opportunities in these kind of situations. Recently the Yeddyurappa dispensation was using government funds to ‘saffronise’ educational institutions. It was found that the government had released Rs. 5 crore to ABVP-headed committees in all colleges and universities of the State on the pretext of generating anti-terror awareness.
“However, in these meetings, the real message being spread was one of hatred and enmity against minorities,”.’
“It is particularly obnoxious that the entire campaign was being spearheaded by Higher Education Minister Arvind Limbavalli who is himself a former ABVP activist. It is a matter of particular concern that the fight against terror – which is and ought to be a united national effort – is being communalised so blatantly,”.
As for the attack on girls in a pub in Mangalore last month, instead of taking steps to protect women in the area, the Chief Minister had asserted his government’s intent to stamp out the pub culture, “thereby indirectly conveying his support for the actions of the Sri Ram Sene and its leader Pramod Muthalik.”
Its not only the issue of Karnataka being the centre of talibanisation but we have seen its effects in states like Maharashtra and gujrat. Either the government fails to take justified steps or is itself involved to promote these extremist groups in lieu of their support during elections. One day one of the thackrey’s is arrested n put behind the bars, next day Mumbai bandh is declared n third day he is out to again enjoy his illegal powers.
Now if the failure of government at the highest level in our country is the reason for extremists succeeding in saffronising the states n countrymens, den I guess we have no arguments to deny the fact that – “we have indeed been talibanised” or at the max we can say dat we are moving towards being talibanised.......

PERCEPTION

Do I or don’t I get it....???,
should I believe it or just forget it...???
There exists dilemma of the things around,
which are more of a profound...
Everyone around is benevolent,
or rather I am more omniscient...
This devious situation,
is making the milieu more confusing,
I don’t know whether to accept it,
or should I just be refusing...??
in this rigmarole (I) am trapped..,
or is it my brain that is zapped..???

BUT,
after a deep inspection,
my mind says,
that its just a simple Perception..............

sorry situation...

once i was also a medical aspirant n appeared for DPMT i.e. delhi pre medical test.. my score was much higher dan da topper of reserved category but still i was not given a chance to make my dream cum true... now wen da skills r being judged at dis level thru an entrance test, y is da need for reserving da seats?? when da capability is being judged thru a rigorous process, den y is dat da caste of a person becomes da deciding factor??
may be dis is wat MAMC students r asking for nowadays.. infact from da past 2-3 yrs wen da bill was introduced in da assembly... da constant on-goin hunger strike by da young aspiring doctors clearly suggests the status of acceptance of the law of reservation imposed by govt. da treatment given to da future doctors really creates a sorry situation for dem.. dis profession was once given da highest respect by da ppl specially in our country.... but da honour n pride dese politicians r feeling after leaving dese students sleep empty stomach is a perfect example of where our country is progressing....
on one hand where the young guns r fyting for process to be freed from reservation, dere is another part of the nation where every piece of land has been put on fire.... n da reason behind is totally opposite.. dey want reservation.... yess all da gujjars protesting for deir caste to be included in reserved category... da method dey are applying is simply fantabulous- break everythin dat cums ur way.. now even deir argument is logical.. at da tym of elections, dey wer promised to be given da status of reserved category by politicians in exhange of votes but only meenas wer given dis status.. so in a simple way dey wer ditched by the politicians at dat tym n now dey r fyting for dose unreliable words... its not dat reservation should be supported here but the thing is dat gujars r not wrong on deir part.. dey wer being misled by as usual our gr8 leaders...

now both situations r contradictoy in da sense dat one demands reservation and other prohiobits it.... who is resposnible for both of dese?? constitution i guess... cuz it gives our politicians da freedom to do anythin wid da amount of power dey had once dey r on deir seat...
dis is really a sorry situation for our nation as govt has been ineffective in getting wat is da ryt way to combat wid da problem dey r facing... youngsters n illiterates who r involved in dis r mere object of mockery for dem...